Honesty for...

We are living in an instant world. Everyone needs everything instantly.

Right from a coffee to building up relationships, instant things are needed.

Instant things are good, but are they really good for everything?

Instant things cover up and dominate the real good things. People move with the tide and tend to compromise with themselves by telling that the whole world is doing the same and why should I be different.

One particular thing which is done by many becomes an unwritten law or a manual that everyone knowingly or unknowingly follow it.

The “I am BUSY” statement is most common among us. Is being BUSY the reason for us to go in for instant things?

What we are up to and where we are we heading?

In this Morden world, building a relationship and breaking it is becoming a fashion.

LOVE and MORALITY are slowly losing its originality and its Spirit. We want to get things easily and instantly, which is through a short-cut means.

Deep within everyone there is a longing, a longing to be understood by someone who really cares.

But, are we ready to understand ? There is a famous quote "Women are meant to be loved, not to be understood." - Oscar Wilde. No matter if its a man or a woman, is it possible to LOVE without understanding ?

Without understanding you cannot LOVE and without LOVE you cannot understand.

Understanding needs Kindness, Patience and Acceptance. LOVE is the only source of Kindness, Patience and Acceptance.

Everything (Kindness, Patience, Acceptance) are clustered (or messed) and bounded so that no external force can break the bond of Understanding that comes out of True LOVE.

True Love is always over dominated or suppressed by fake Love or a LOVE without the above characters. Today many are attracted and enslaved by Fake LOVE (‘coz it’s a busy world).

Always remember if a person who is in LOVE with you will be at HIS/HER kindness if not watch out for.

All glitters is not GOLD. Good things are always duplicated and duplicate cannot be as good as original.

No one can give what they don’t have, so is true Love.

There is no point in trying to deceive True LOVE. It depends upon honesty for its survival.

Be truthful to yourself so that the truth which is inside you will make your LOVE true.

NEVER FAILS

Its a good feeling to be with someone. To care for someone and the best thing is to know that you are cared for and loved by the person towards whom you are caring and loving.

But what if your LOVE and CARE seems to be unnoticed, rejected or misused?

Now this seems to be a bad feeling... ISN’T IT?

Hold on... Before having a bad feeling find Whether your care is out of True Love or Hypocritical Love.

Out of all the emotions that we have, LOVE is the only emotion which is highly used and abused.

True LOVE and Hypocritical LOVE look alike. You cannot differentiate it easily.

But the major difference between these two are:

True Love	Hypocritical Love
Patient and Kind	Impatient and unkind
Selfless	Selfish
Seeks other’s Goodwill	Self seeking
Trusts, Cares and Comforts	Cannot expect Trust, Care and comfort
Gives THE BEST	Pretends that it gives the best but truly does not

Somehow, in the romantic world of music and theatre we have made LOVE to be what it is not. We have so mixed it with beauty and charm and sensuality and contact that we have robbed it of its higher call of cherishing and nurturing. LOVE becomes an instrument to demand. A medium to get. A silly thing to make fun of. LOVE become the reason for lust, possessiveness, infatuation and all the other idiotic stuff.

Now it’s very fragile that it can be broken easily.

But is this the real nature of true LOVE? The answer is yes if its a Hypocritical LOVE.

You will give what you have. And if you are not sure about what you give, things will mess up. It not only spoils you but the other person as well. ‘coz every word and every action you do to others is like a seed which you are planting.

You may talk with a broad smile and honey dipped words. But if there is no true LOVE in it, what are you going to gain? You can argue that the world is like that so why should I be different.

The world will teach you all the shortest ways to attain things but the shortest routes are not always the best routes. Because it can bypass some of the most precious lessons in life.

When you get all the things you desired through hypocritical ways, you will enjoy it initially but later you will end up with regrets... Only regrets. You cannot make a new beginning and also cannot make a good ending.

You reap what you sow.

Remember its not about the world. Its about you.

When you share true LOVE and if you feel that its been over dominated by a hypocritical LOVE, be patient and remember true LOVE is not as brazen as Hypocritical LOVE but it has its own way of conquering.

True Love is patient and kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, and it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres.

Its a free will to you to be a true person who shares true LOVE and endures the pain and convert it to joy or you can be a hypocrite with hypocritical LOVE and end up with regrets.

Remember TRUE LOVE NEVER FAILS...

Am I with a Right Person?

Every relationship has a cycle...in the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet.." Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU. Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else.

This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfilment comes in all shapes and sizes.

Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this): The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner). Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know and apply these laws, the results are predictable. Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO!!

Don't compare your life to others'. You have no Idea what their journey is all about!!!

Follow Your Heart

Good Man/Women – Bad Man/Women. Its their nature to be who they are. Its up to you to accept or not. Dont treat any one bad and think they are bad. After all its their nature and if you cannot understand and accept, then the problem is not with other’s but with you and with in you.

When you cannot accept someone’s nature you start observing them and start finding fault in them and the things they do. When you start finding fault you don’t have time to think the good things about them.

So knowingly or unknowingly you start developing hatred for that person which gradually lead to have jealous, anger and also start finding things to pull them down. You might be a person who tries to love or to have a normal relation with everyone but slowly you start doing things against your own nature.

Every person has their own good and bad nature. It is your wish to accept it or not. Never try to change your own nature to handle others nature. And it’s worthless to try a lot to change others nature and even more worthless to talk about other’s nature.

Be what you are and who you are. Never get influenced by others.

No matter what follow your HEART

"Love the people who treat you right. Pray for the ones who don't."

One day I hopped in a taxi and we took off for the airport . We were driving in the right lane when suddenly a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us. My taxi driver slammed on his breaks, skidded, and missed the other car by just inches! The driver of the other car whipped his head around and started yelling at us.

My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. And I mean, he was really friendly.

So I asked, "Why did you just do that? This guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!" This is when my taxi driver taught me what I now call, "The Law of the Garbage Truck."

He explained that many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment. As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it and sometimes they'll dump it on you. Don't take it personally. Just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. Don't take their garbage and spread it to other people at work, at home or on the streets.

The bottom line is that successful people do not let garbage trucks take over their day. Life's too short to wake up in the morning with regrets, so.....

"Love the people who treat you right. Pray for the ones who don't."

Life is ten percent what you make it and ninety percent how you take it!